I’ve created a little monster
Hassan grabs at the kid’s eyeballs without reason, his teacher is complaining and some parents have come forth and complained about my son’s violent behaviour. Today I talked to him and asked him not to beat up kids, I told him to behave. What should I do? Should I take him out before they kick him out? I’ve noticed he’s not social at all and most of the time he’s on his own. Kids are so scared of him. They probably have nightmares of him too! I’m afraid he’ll turn into a bully. I don’t want my child to hit other kids except in self-defense. I don’t use much force with him. I might shout, pretend I’m very cross and spank him if he’s done a very bad thing like playing with an electricity socket or pulling at my hair. Some parents burn their kids with a match as a form of punishment and tell me they love their kids to death, that’s abuse. I’m not like that and I don’t think I’m spoiling him? Is it too early to worry about this?
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November 7th, 2007 at 9:29 am
Sho burning with matches… Just a soft slap on the hand would do I guess & leaving him for a while… like Super Nanny
November 7th, 2007 at 9:34 am
Weeenich ya super nanny?
November 7th, 2007 at 10:28 am
yimkin lana only child and hasnt been socialising with other kids, i think u just need to socialize him, outside school, or itha ur friend has her son/daughter there that u arrange play dates and stuff, but no smacking around and matches 7araaaaaaaaaaaaaam…
but dnt worry babes, its a phase, my cousin once killed the chicken thats in the little KG farm thing with his own hands, imagine the terror the other kids faced, but now he is as docile as a bunny, and its with constant encouragement to quit being such a “bad boy”
allah iy5ali lich inshalla babes
November 7th, 2007 at 10:35 am
Aren’t we changing rules of raising kids ? My wife is expecting our first child this Jan , i dont know how good father i will be . But im sure Our parents and our ancestors were not wrong when they said “spare the rod and spoil the child ” …. Too many television shows with those stupid supernanny’s telling us not to spank the kids …. Where we are heading ?
BTW the quote is from the Bible ..
November 7th, 2007 at 10:47 am
Princess, akeed haram bas fee ahali chithee. I try my best to make it to every family gathering and I make sure he visits his cousins on a weekly basis so I don’t think it’s that.
This is the first time I see him acting like this with other kids. He could be bored or maybe he wants things done his way and when they’re not met the only way of diverting the teacher’s attention to him is beating up other kids in class, which of course will make the teacher stop what she’s doing and take action against him.
November 7th, 2007 at 11:03 am
yeah maybe, im sorry but i think its cute, i mean maybe the kids are just being mean and ur son is dishing out some justice hassan style or something
and yeah i know abt hal ahali, thank god ino theyre less and less now
November 7th, 2007 at 11:15 am
Grey, I know where you’re coming from. Kids need to respect adults if they don’t they must be punished in a way or another, best way is by taking away from them their favourite toys. Parents shouldn’t go to the extremes either, but it should be done with reason not violence.
Princess, that’s the problem I’m not there to know what happened, but you’re right maybe another kid did something to him, so who knows.
November 7th, 2007 at 1:14 pm
burn kids with matches?!
its ok, maybe he just needs time to adjust, my baby cousin 7amood was like that when he first started going to nursery, but he pretty soon grew out of that stage, u just have to let him know his actions have consequences.
and whatever u do, do NOT take him out, then he would always use violence to get out of something he dosent like.
November 7th, 2007 at 1:43 pm
eshda3wa, do you suggest I leave him at the same nursery?
November 7th, 2007 at 4:12 pm
Yeah don’t take him out of the nursery. Tara its just a phase. But still he’s obviously acting like a spoiled brat.
Maybe he’s used to attention on HIM ONLY, and now that he’s in nursery, he’s sharing the attention with other kids, so he doesn’t like it.
But show him that you don’t like what he’s doing. One thing I learned with my baby cousins and siblings is that you have to tell them what it is they’re doing wrong. I heard this thing somewhere and I taught it to my aunties. They thank me everyday for it:
When they do something wrong say : ANA MA7IBIK LAMA (for example) IT6EG IL YAHAL.
dont say MA7IBIK only. U have to say ma7ibik lama itsawi so and so.
and opposite: A7IBIK LAMA TSEER GOOD BOY.
The first one works the best, becoz they dont like to be not loved.
Hope it works!
November 8th, 2007 at 11:10 am
if a kid hits my own kid i’d hold him and let my kid beat the crap out of him!
it could be a phase, but he should be punished somehow. maybe his dad should talk to him.
November 8th, 2007 at 1:35 pm
Enigma, a kid bit my son today. It’s his 2nd bite!
November 8th, 2007 at 3:15 pm
Pearls … better would be to social him more often .. meaning get other kids at your home. Let him learn to share toys. Let him meet different adults in the family..
Things should change…
November 8th, 2007 at 5:54 pm
Hahaha they’re getting back at him!
*sorry* :p
November 9th, 2007 at 4:01 pm
The thing is he needs to be around other kids from the beginning to become more social so this is just a phase!!
But making sure he understands its a bad things is important! You need to get that through to him! Good luck!
P.S. I was a monster of a child!
November 10th, 2007 at 1:14 am
Rayboy, he’s very social when I’m around but you’re right he needs to be around more kids I’m sure that will help
This lady, lol! at least I’m not as childish as other mothers are. I didn’t pinch and pull at the ears of those kids, who bit my son, nor did I complain to the teachers about it but I ignored. But you know what I’m happy that they fought back because now he’ll know his boundaries. It brings another question, maybe the teacher doesn’t know how to handle kids at all? How can this happen!! (Nonowa, reply to this plz)
Marzouq, I’ll try to be a little more optimistic about all of this because you just gave me hope
Chika, you’re going to like this lol. now I’m punishing him by letting him sit on the naughty chair for two minutes
November 10th, 2007 at 12:46 pm
Lol! Thats good, my demon days brought you hope! The monster is kept locked up and comes out every once in a while! lol
January 14th, 2008 at 7:52 pm
Take him to Happy Chappies in Fintas and see how they deal with the kids. All the kids will become very social and disciplend with the wright method. No beating for beating. The kids are tought to be vocal instead of physical!