Lazy mom
Many mothers who see my kid in my arms would go “don’t carry him, then he’ll get used to that!” or “you still didn’t cut him off his passie?” as if they’re trying to say ‘what a lazy mom am I! All very unnecessary comments and quite rude indeed if it’s followed by ‘what a lousy mom you are” because I’m not that lazy but I’m just taking my time at this, it’s just not easy. My son is not potty trained but I can afford diapers until he’s fully toilet trained, so why not and it’s not like I haven’t been working on it since he was born just like this lady.
Why some might think I’m not the best mom in the world?
- My son still shares the bed with us
- He’s very addicted to his passie but good thing he weaned himself off the bottle
- He’s still not potty trained, instead I’ve worked on toilet training
- He loves to be held at all times. People around me are always giving me advice that I shouldn’t be carrying my baby at all times, well how bad is it really? It was the only thing that consoled him while he was little
Is that such a bad thing? I mean all the things above are typical things society inflicts on moms just to make life more difficult on them, as if it weren’t!
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September 12th, 2007 at 1:32 pm
Take it easy babes :*
September 12th, 2007 at 2:23 pm
anna adrii, just because you do not do it like that other mother, doesnt mean your a bad mother haw, kil wa7id should customize it 3alla kaifhom… bil3ax at least your holding him not a maid that follows you around.
September 12th, 2007 at 5:07 pm
lol I know bas what bothers me most is when total strangers approach me and say “cut him off of this” esp. at the co-ops.
September 12th, 2007 at 5:32 pm
I am sure you are a great mom!! Dont let other people judge your ways…they dont even know u!!!!
I have had the same stuff happen to me- people approach me and have comments. But I cud care less. I mean I cant say that I dont have my opinions about certain things- like pacifiers, but that only changed after I had my first….when he was 2. I cut the tip off, he cried for a bit at nite and then realized there was no point. My second child never used one- she never even drank from a bottle. I will never use a pacifier again. I enjoyed how she self soothed and was always burbling and talking..so for me no paci is better.
About sleeping in the bed- my son slept with us until he was like 1 years and 6 months. But his bed was in the room with me so it was easy to switch over. He started sleeping in his own room at 2 years old. Howevcer my daughter slept in her own bed from the beginning but it was in my room. She has been sleeping in her own room since she was 10 months old. having them in the room can be a strain on the time u have with your hubby. But as you see with the first child, I was different than with the second so its all in what u feel is right for u and your family.
Hassoon wasnt toilet trained until 3 years old and Massooka is still not. this is an individual thing and cannot be forced on your child. They will let u know when they are ready and it will be fast and easy. Dont even worry about that. My family used to drive me crazy concerning this subject….and they still do.
Hold him until your heart is content!!!! Its the best feeling in the world to hold your child and if people have a problem with that they must not show much affection at tall. Kids need hugs and kisses all the time!! its great that u are like that with him
Bottom line- be who u are. you’re a great mom- never let anyone tell u different. I dont see Hassan complaining…..;) As long as he is happy- u know you are doing the right thing.
Sorry its so looooooooong…….. LOL
September 12th, 2007 at 10:59 pm
I have a book called “The baby book” by Dr sears and his family… it says bel3aks! its good that you have this connection with your son, he needs it, its good that he feels safe its called “attatchment paranting”.. ba3dain when he grows he will be more theqa bnafsa more assured of his decisions, shakh9eta qaweya…
Pearls you are a great mom. How many moms could go out with their 2 year olds alone without a maid these days? You do it and you manage it beautifully i would love to be like that when my son grows enshallah
September 13th, 2007 at 4:59 am
7ayati, I have always told you to go by your own instincts since Hassan was born, and I think it’s the best way to go.
Shahad slept with us in our bed until she was 2 1/2, Hussain was always carried, especially after he got sick with ITP when he was 3 1/2, Showg wasn’t off the paci and bottle until she was 4 (and mashalla, you know how she is talking non-stop and she has the best looking teeth out of all her siblings), and Hassan wasn’t potty trained until he was 3 1/2. Does that make me a bad mother? Each child has their own personality and each has a different way with dealing with things. Shahad was an only child at the time and easiy scared and needed to be comforted at night. Hussain was 7anoon (and still to this day, he calls me if I go out and I’m just a little late because he worries about me) so he needed to be carried and loved. Showg was 7ananna and always mit3asra and the only thing that comforted her was her pacifier. Hassan was stubborn (and still is) and you can’t make him do anything unless he decides to do it on his own so even though I started potty training at 2, he didn’t get trained until recently. Your son has all these beautiful qualities in him
It will show the most if you are a bad mother when they grow up. Now most people tell me my two oldest are “mitrabyeen 3del” because they respect their elders, are well mannered and obedient, the younger two will not show yet because they are still too young. So now does that make me a good mother or a bad mother?
September 13th, 2007 at 5:53 am
By the way u talk i think u r really great Mom ! listen 2 urself & what u want coz this is ur lifestyl .
3sa allah y5lelech ur son .
& kel 3am wentay b5er
September 13th, 2007 at 12:06 pm
now I feel 1000 times better
September 13th, 2007 at 8:50 pm
If he can walk, you can hold hands?
September 14th, 2007 at 10:17 pm
we hold hands all the time, I encourage that too
September 15th, 2007 at 4:21 pm
lol@ 3baid
i think people who say that are the lazy ones, l2na malhom khlog carry the kids all the time.
September 18th, 2007 at 2:30 pm
I think there are some useful advice, they don’t mean any harm. But also on the other side of things, I made my nephew follow a ball so that worked out! looool! I didn’t carry him and I always would stand next to him and then he would go his own way!
September 19th, 2007 at 12:33 pm
Vyyvaa, maybe lazy but I think this has to do with making kids more confident and independent
Marzouq, for some reason I don’t mind friends and family giving me advice but it bothers me when a mere stranger tells me that because they don’t know me. But I like the way you’re dealing with your nephew